Wednesday, April 17, 2024

Nine Years Later, the Elaine’s Crowd Is Still Meeting on the Anniversary of Our Unofficial Godmother’s Passing


Nine years after the irrepressible, beloved Elaine Kaufman died at the age of 81, her legacy lives on. The regulars from her joint on East 88th and Second meet annually to salute her, and so we did again on Saturday night at Neary’s on East 57th St. Elaine died on December 3, 2010 and a community of friends have never forgotten her.

The esteemed Peter Khoury of the New York Times is the organizer and over the years attendance has waxed and waned. On Saturday the stars aligned, and more people showed up than ever. This was the group that rode out the last decade at Elaine’s, from 2001 to 2010, let’s say. They were the gang from the dining room and the bar, a twain that Elaine insisted would never meet.

But I was happy radio stars Jim Kerr and Carol Miller from Q104.3FM and Sirius Radio, NYPD deputy commissioner John Miller and his mother Cindy; former NYFD fire marshall Louis Garcia, mystery writer Carol Higgins Clark, Elaine’s aide de camp Barbara O’Connell, journalist Ash Bennington, Swedish writer Per Bjurman, Broadway production office heavyweights Freddie and Hillary Gallo, and ticket maven Jolie Gabler, real old time regular Pete Kelly, and so on.

Even better was a reunion of Elaine’s waiters and bartenders. Duffy,  who has a PhD from Elaine’s, holds forth at Neary’s and, like Pete Khoury, gave a funny and touching toast.

And so we reminisced, about staying out til 2am, drinking Elaine’s booze (and how much it cost), the times we saw her throw people out the door for not eating dinner, how she demanded we meet anyone famous who came in. “Go talk to them,” she’d say to me whether it was Greg Allman, Phil Spector (with ten armed bodyguards), or Peter Maas.

This is how a network of friends grew and grew from the day Elaine opened the place in 1963, to the very end. There was no one like her. She had the rare gift of putting people together– pushing people together– famous or not. When you came back to her table, she’d say, “So? Was I right? What’d they say?” Whatever it was. Whoever it was.

Well, don’t get me started. Elaine, we salute you. Hard to believe we’re going into our 10th year without you. Listen, people lived in Elaine’s. Before cell phones, if you couldn’t find someone, odds are they’d be there after 11. If they were in town, that’s where they were.

Thanks, Pete. Thanks, Neary’s. See you next year.

PS That photo is going to make smile all week.


Roger Friedman
Roger Friedman
Roger Friedman began his Showbiz411 column in April 2009 after 10 years with Fox News, where he created the Fox411 column. His movie reviews are carried by Rotten Tomatoes, and he is a member of both the movie and TV branches of the Critics Choice Awards. His articles have appeared in dozens of publications over the years including New York Magazine, where he wrote the Intelligencer column in the mid 90s and covered the OJ Simpson trial, and Fox News (when it wasn't so crazy) where he covered Michael Jackson. He is also the writer and co-producer of "Only the Strong Survive," a selection of the Cannes, Sundance, and Telluride Film festivals, directed by DA Pennebaker and Chris Hegedus.

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