Monday, July 22, 2024

Sean Ono Lennon Devastated: “Carrie and Debbie’s relationship was a template for mine and my mother’s


Who knew that Sean Lennon and his mom Yoko Ono were such close friends of Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds? It doesn’t seem like an organic fit, but you never know in this world what bonds people. According to Sean’s Instagram and Twitter posts, the four spent a lot of time together, even watching one of the Presidential debates together. (Debbie was “passionately against Trump.”)

Sean also turns out to be profound on the subject of grief, and that does make sense since he and Yoko (and Julian Lennon) suffered an unspeakable loss in 1980. The younger Lennon wrote on Instagram today:

I’m absolutely speechless with the news of Debbie passing just a day after her daughter. I knew how close they were, and because of Carrie I have so many wonderful memories of Debbie in her house next to Carrie’s. They were so absolutely close it seems clear that Debbie wanted to be with her daughter. Carrie and Debbie’s relationship was a template for mine and my mother’s. I’m so stunned.

Before Reynolds died, Sean also posted:

And to Carrie, I hope you and David and George Martin and Prince and Leonard and the others lost this year are having the best party ever, and I hope my dad greeted you at the door. Love, Sean

More from Sean’s earlier, eloquent post:

Now we must double our efforts to send love to Billie, and to Todd. I don’t know what to say right now, I’m truly in shock. I’m just…this is too much. Debbie was indeed a timeless legend and so much of Carrie’s effortless grace on screen came from Debbie’s mentoring. Debbie taught me many things. I literally have no energy left in my body I feel completely drained of all blood, I feel utterly deflated. I can’t imagine how Billie feels please concentrate your energies on helping her through this tornado of tragedies. I can’t imagine losing two such pillars in such a short time. I love you Billie. And I love you Carrie and Debbie always. Thank you for what was an endless fountain of kindness and generosity from both of you. (Debbie we had just watched one of the debates w Carrie at your house and I’ll never forget you telling Carrie and I to shut up because you were so passionately against Trump and wanted to hear the television but Carrie and I were joking around a bit loudly. I miss you so much!)

Earlier, Sean had written: I was talking to a friend about grief just now and I think I’d like to share an excerpt: ‘I’ll tell you this much, it never goes away, and the mistake we sometimes make is expecting it to. Once we stop hoping for it to go away, once we accept that it is a permanent edifice in our lives, then the sharpness of its edge becomes more and more tolerable each day. We also come to be thankful for the strength and wisdom gained in having to scale that edifice for the rest of our lives. Not one day passes that I don’t miss my father since he died. The people we lose live on in us, and much of that vicarious immortality hurts to bear. But therein lays the paradox of existence: what hurts us the most also gives us the most strength, beauty, and understanding. Those of us who have never lost are living in a half dream state. To know suffering is to know truth, for reality comes at a price. In the end the balance works out because we all pay the ultimate price for living, eventually. So whatever wisdom gained during our brief flicker of awareness–that spark of consciousness we call a lifetime–is a gift and a privilege. That’s how I try to see it anyway. xo, Sean’


Photo of Carrie Fisher by Sean Ono Lennon via Instagram




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Roger Friedman began his Showbiz411 column in April 2009 after 10 years with Fox News, where he created the Fox411 column. His movie reviews are carried by Rotten Tomatoes, and he is a member of both the movie and TV branches of the Critics Choice Awards. His articles have appeared in dozens of publications over the years including New York Magazine, where he wrote the Intelligencer column in the mid 90s and covered the OJ Simpson trial, and Fox News (when it wasn't so crazy) where he covered Michael Jackson. He is also the writer and co-producer of "Only the Strong Survive," a selection of the Cannes, Sundance, and Telluride Film festivals, directed by DA Pennebaker and Chris Hegedus.

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